THE SKINNY ON THE 411

THE CONDENSED VERSION:

2 women fall in love, want kids, need sperm, have a friend who is willing to let us have some of his, his parents are wonderful people who are more than excited to be grandparents, we negotiate with R (donor) for months, after many a happy hour get together we decide its a go, he gets his swimmers tested and scores above average, we tell our families who are all very supportive and excided for us, he tells his parents who are also very excited, we have hired a lawyer to help us take the steps necessary to protect our family to the fullest, next step is to finalize the lawyer stuff and then start trying for babies!! This is really happening...finally.

I have to say, for so many reasons I'm so glad I'm queer but it sure would be nice to be able to do all the freaking out, planning, and negotiating after getting pregnant. We have had to be so intentional through this process and work out details that most people would never dream to think of before conception. I'm ready...we are ready.

I will post new developments as they arise.

ADD IT TO "THE LIST"

I feel like N and I have about one million things on "the list" right now. Isn't winter time supposed when you hunker down and watch a bunch of movies, get fat, wear cozy hats and cuddle? That is happening a little bit too but man have we been busy!! I almost feel like I want to throw my phone away. If you are anyone who knows me you know that is a very serious thing for me to say.

I really should consider "the list" more a set of milestones to a goal than a burden. Its not like my life is crazy busy and I have no idea why. I am very aware that my calendar is full because N and I are really working up to something big here. We are weeks away from trying to conceive a child. Most of you are probably wondering what that means and the big question, HOW???

For now I have to leave you hanging...my eyes are so tired and i need to get a good nights sleep. More to come soon.